A Birthday of Memories

Every year, a few days before my birthday, I have deep and dark thoughts about missing my sister. Once the day actually comes, the anxiety dissipates, and I am able to find excitement in celebrating with the people who are still here. But those days leading up can be brutal. If you’re missing someone onContinue reading “A Birthday of Memories”

Sisterly Love

This picture is reminiscent of a story I’ve been told, not a memory I’ve acquired. Yet my response is visceral, like smelling something that slams you back into the past.  My oldest two are 4.5 years older than baby Willow, the exact same age gap I had with my sister. My mom told me onceContinue reading “Sisterly Love”

Ask Jacque: Sex Over Sleep, My Brother’s Girlfriend, The Bachelor Boyfriend

To Sex or Not to Sex My husband complains all the time that we don’t have enough sex. Like, I think once a weekish is fair right now. We have two under two, and I’m exhausted all the time. By the end of the night, I just want a shower and my bed. The ideaContinue reading “Ask Jacque: Sex Over Sleep, My Brother’s Girlfriend, The Bachelor Boyfriend”

ASK JACQUE: MIL, Household Chores, & Siblings

The Mother-in-Law who keeps on coming So I just had a baby, and my MIL has been coming over all the time to “help.” I’ve asked her to check with me before coming over, but she just shows up whenever she wants, saying something like, “Oh I forgot to tell you I was on myContinue reading “ASK JACQUE: MIL, Household Chores, & Siblings”

What Does Mother’s Day Bring Up for You?

Holidays can be very difficult because they remind us of who is gone but not forgotten. When I worked at a substance abuse treatment facility, I learned about how difficult family celebration days can be for many people. At that point in my life, I had yet to experience great loss, and it was astoundingContinue reading “What Does Mother’s Day Bring Up for You?”