To Love Ourselves

I watched a movie last night and cried my way through it. Have you seen Dumplin’ on Netflix? It’s about a girl in a bigger body trying to fit into a beauty pageant world. It explores the inadequacies we feel when our bodies are unacceptable to other people. And worse: when we perpetuate our ownContinue reading “To Love Ourselves”

Day Care Guilt

I dropped my daughter off at day care this morning, and it killed me a little bit. The idea of another mother watching my child because I was unable to do so. The guilt clung to my shoulders and suffocated my heart.  My other children ventured outside the house once they were old enough forContinue reading “Day Care Guilt”

I Am Brave

I love my one-year-old’s power walk. She cruises through the house, fearless, unstoppable. Because she knows nothing about what could possibly happen. She has no anticipatory anxiety. She simply enjoys discovering the parts of life she now has access to. What if we were like this? A little healthy fear to keep us safe isContinue reading “I Am Brave”

The Freedom of Exercise

It’s been a rough month over here. Hell, it’s been a rough year and a half šŸ™ˆ. After struggling with my mental health through the pandemic, moving, and having the kids at home full-time, we all got Covid. Although the lingering physical effects of our illness took weeks to shake off, it has been hardContinue reading “The Freedom of Exercise”

To Get Us Up & Out

Do you have a power outfit? A suit of armor to protect you when you have to leave the house. Some people wear make up, others style their hair. I have colors. When Iā€™m anxious, I go back to basics: black, white, and red. Because I am most comfortable in these colors, I become theContinue reading “To Get Us Up & Out”

“I Love Your Squishy Parts”

Although sweet, this is a multi-layered statement, eliciting a complicated emotional response. One that usually ends in laughter, because that’s how I deal with discomfort. This statement acknowledges my squishy parts but simultaneously loves them. It means I can’t hide them, which creates fear, but also asks the question, “Why hide them?”, which is empowering.Continue reading ““I Love Your Squishy Parts””

You Have Another Parent!

I was tired. I was spent. I just had nothing left. So when we all sat down at the couch to watch a movie, and the mom questions pelted at me like arrows, I just kind of erupted. “You have another parent!” Anyone else feel like the kids only want you, even if your spouseContinue reading “You Have Another Parent!”

Feeling Sexy Impacts Sex

I’ve been feeling pretty uncomfortable in my body lately, and this impacts so many facets of my life. I’m struggling to sleep because much of my body hurts. My body moves differently after having children and losing weight. I exist differently within my body, and I don’t recognize myself. And this all affects sex. HowContinue reading “Feeling Sexy Impacts Sex”

Why is Self-Care Hard?

I shared in my last post how we often mistake self-care for activities that are essential. Why do we do this? The simple answer is because self-care is really hard. Now let me break down why we only do it if we have to. The first, is that I’ve made myself irreplaceable as mom. NoContinue reading “Why is Self-Care Hard?”

“Survival is Not Self-Care”

I watched a video by Cat and Nat that struck home. It centered on the idea that “survival is not self-care.” Most of what we consider as “taking care of ourselves” is actually a slew of necessary activities that we’ve become grateful for being able to accomplish. Like taking a shower or cutting our nails.Continue reading ““Survival is Not Self-Care””