Mama Fought Back

My daughter came out of the bath saying, “I hate that I’m fat.” I grew up in a house where that was the worst possible trait a person could possess. So all the triggers started firing. I have spent years working on my relationship with food and with my body. We rarely mention weight orContinue reading “Mama Fought Back”

An Integration of Body and Soul

I had an interesting session with my hypnotherapist. What began as a discussion about manifesting a wildly successful writing career quickly turned into a discussion about my longstanding body image struggles. Who knew the two could be connected? She threw me a curve ball when she asked me if I loved myself. I thought, “OfContinue reading “An Integration of Body and Soul”

The Validation that Matters Most

I recently put on a pair of leggings because of how they made me feel, not because of how they made me look. The vibrant colors made me happy, but the patterns definitely did not make me thinner. This was a turning point for me where the goal of the day was not to lookContinue reading “The Validation that Matters Most”

“I Love Your Squishy Parts”

Although sweet, this is a multi-layered statement, eliciting a complicated emotional response. One that usually ends in laughter, because that’s how I deal with discomfort. This statement acknowledges my squishy parts but simultaneously loves them. It means I can’t hide them, which creates fear, but also asks the question, “Why hide them?”, which is empowering.Continue reading ““I Love Your Squishy Parts””

Sex in a Post-Baby Body

Sex after kids got better and worse for me. I feel like I lost all of my dignity by having children. The sacred parts of me had been viewed by many, often more thoroughly than I had viewed them myself. So any reservations or shyness I had about my naked erogenous zones almost evaporated; however,Continue reading “Sex in a Post-Baby Body”

Feeling Sexy Impacts Sex

I’ve been feeling pretty uncomfortable in my body lately, and this impacts so many facets of my life. I’m struggling to sleep because much of my body hurts. My body moves differently after having children and losing weight. I exist differently within my body, and I don’t recognize myself. And this all affects sex. HowContinue reading “Feeling Sexy Impacts Sex”

Why I Avoid my Mirror

Enough about self-care. Let’s talk about some self-love 💕. Anyone else feeling really yucky about her body right now? I realized I ignore my mirror completely when changing because I can’t handle seeing my body. The lumps and dimples, rolls and stretch marks seem to scream horrible words at me, and so I choose notContinue reading “Why I Avoid my Mirror”

The Post Baby Body

I’ve been having a rough couple of days with my post baby body. Sometimes I could care less that I have stretch marks and extra skin, and sometimes it actually begins to affect my self-worth. I’ve yet to experience another attribute that allows me to devalue myself, quite like weight and size. Why does theContinue reading “The Post Baby Body”

Aphrodite Never Had A Thigh Gap

All right ladies. It’s that time of year again: the dreaded swim suit season 😱. That’s right. The time of year when you probably feel more insecure than you thought possible. The time of year when you shutter at the idea of obligatory beach bashes and pool parties. Just know, you are not alone in this.Continue reading “Aphrodite Never Had A Thigh Gap”

Bachelorette Postpartum

Today I was invited to a bachelorette party, and this immediately triggered a lot of insecurities in me. I was uncomfortable in a bathing suit before children, and, although I’ve done a lot of work on improving my self-image, I’m still not totally comfortable in a bathing suit now. I also haven’t spent an entireContinue reading “Bachelorette Postpartum”