Feeling Sexy Impacts Sex

I’ve been feeling pretty uncomfortable in my body lately, and this impacts so many facets of my life. I’m struggling to sleep because much of my body hurts. My body moves differently after having children and losing weight. I exist differently within my body, and I don’t recognize myself.

And this all affects sex. How can I connect with someone else if I don’t feel connected to myself?

I’ve really been struggling with how my body image affects Yev, but I’ve spent less time considering how it’s impacted me. Sex is often just another thing on my list to do. I’m never disappointed when it happens, but it’s just hard to make time for it. The mental shift can be exhausting, especially when I have kids crawling all over me all day. And frankly, it’s often just another person’s need to meet, other than my own.

But what if sex is one of my needs, and I’m just too tired to see it?

Yesterday I spent some time taking care of myself. I cut my hair, waxed my eyebrows, and brushed on some mascara. And it changed everything. I felt human again, instead of an overgrown wildebeest.

I don’t know if it was the time spent alone or the actual beauty routine, but I felt great about myself. I felt sexy. Feeling comfortable in my body was a nice change from how I’d been feeling for months.

And let me tell you, feeling good about myself felt a lot better than making sure Yev got his needs met. I’ve shifted my focus, and instead of making time for Yev, I’m making time for me. He’s just happy to come along for the ride 😉.